The death of traditional dating
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“Hey! So, I’ve noticed you walking into the lunchroom every day this past semester, and I was wondering…Would you like to go get dinner with me some time? There’s this great new restaurant over on Irving and 17th Street. I could pick you up this Saturday around 6, and I promise I’ll have you back by 10!”
These are the makings of a traditional date, which is something that this generation doesn’t comprehend. It’s when a guy goes out of his way to ask out a girl he finds wondrous, pick her up from her house, take her out (and pay the bill, of course) to get to know her better, and return her home safely, without expecting anything more than a “thank you and goodnight” hug.
With “hooking up” becoming commonplace these days, it’s rare to find someone so willing to get to know you for the sake of getting to know you — not your tongue. There’s a clear difference between a date and a between-class stairwell hook up. For the love of God, I understand that hormones are flying, but I’d rather not have them fly head-on into my face on my way down to Weight Training. It seems as if we’ve devolved and are lusting, rather than loving.
The Internet, while making the world closer, has also managed to somehow make us grow farther apart. A “date” is now limited to a conversation between two people separated by two screens. Well, “conversation” is a bit of a stretch. In reality, Facebook stalking is replacing actual talking as the way to find out more about your crush. With so much information available at the click of a button, it’s easy to see why one would shy away from gathering the courage to talk to said boy or girl. The thing is, you’re not going to find out if you “click” with someone while sitting behind your desktop monitor.
Boys, become men. Ask that girl you’ve been admiring in class out on a date. A real date. Rejection, albeit scary, is a part of life and helps one grow as a person. Girls can do the same.
I am just sick and tired of seeing the idea of love being mocked. Forget making a fool out of the person getting into a relationship expecting more than the physical. You’re making a fool out of Cupid himself.
Dating is supposed to be a time when you get to know the other person, but now, people who date are viewed as already being in a serious relationship. My question is: Why so serious about being unserious, Townsend Harris?